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In The Mind Of Valerie

S05E10: Belittle(d) Problems

Listen in as Valerie shares her two cents in this week’s episode. Enjoy!

S05E09: Peace Like a River

There’s a certain kind of peace I want to experience in my life.
That kind of peace that makes no sense. The very one that keeps you in wonder. That one that feels surreal and bizarre/strange. Listen in.

S05E08: The Thing About Dependency

There’s something about reliance or dependence.
Say you’re relying on someone for a particular thing to pull through. Say without this person you feel it won’t be possible or this person has or holds the keys to your big break. Listen in as Valerie shares honest thoughts.

S05E07: Parenthood (with Msugh Anom)

Valerie has a beautiful conversation with an amazing personality— Msugh Anom, who is a singer/songwriter, a teacher, husband and father. He shares his two cents on parenting, his music and life in general. The music played in the beginning is from his debut album “More Than Meets The Eye” and the song is called “Praise”. I hope you enjoy the episode as much as we enjoyed recording.

S05E06: Multipotentiality (with Rev. Fr. Ben Onyemechalu, alias FadaBen)

This episode explores ‘Multipotentiality’. I hope you learn something new from this episode. The song playing is from FadaBen’s project “The Introduction” and it’s called “I Forgive You”, you can find it and more on all major streaming platforms.

S05E05: Neesh/Nitche (with Joshua Idehen)

This episode promises to be mind blowing as Valerie had a wonderful conversation with UK based performance poet and writer — Joshua Idehen. Some of his songs played in this episode; “Field Negus” and “I Got You Every Step of the Way” can be found on any of your favorite streaming platforms. Do well to also listen to his new project called ‘Best Kind of Lost’. With my heart, I hope you enjoy this episode as we enjoyed making it. Before I forget, Joshua recited a poem too😁

S05E04: The Waiting Period (with Prithvi Prajosh)

Valerie had an amazing conversation with singer and songwriter- Prithvi Prajosh, who happens to be Indian but resides in LA. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did recording.

S05E03: See Finish

This episode debunks the theory of familiarity and availability breeding a drop in value. Valerie’s main focus is in friendships/ relationships. I hope you find this episode interesting and useful.

S05E02: Mathz & Jazz (with Lawrence Udeigwe)

Listen in as Valerie converses with Lawrence Udeigwe, who is a Maths Professor and a Jazz Musician in New York. He shared a lot of insightful and exciting stories about his journey and career. You can find him on instagram @lawrenceudeigwe. I hope you enjoy this episode😁

S05E01: Open Says-Me (Sesame)

Happy New Year, amigo!!! In this episode, Valerie shared thoughts on the importance of deciphering if an advice is good enough for you to take or not. The beautiful background music was composed by the very best and you can find him on IG @emmeoogwuche

S04E20: Inferiority Complex with NONZO (Season Finale)

This episode talks about inferior complex, how it affects a person and also how it can be managed. My guest, Nonzo Bassey was very open and guess what? Before leaving my mind, he sang a beautiful song from his coming project. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did making it.

S04E19: Wake up, women!

This episode episode just share what Valerie has noticed with her womenfolk and it encourages them do be nicer to one another. I hope you enjoy it.

Baiday Small Talk

It’s my birthday today and this episode just gives you an insight of my mind as usual.

S04E018: Turn The Volume Down

Listen in as Valerie talks about one of the most neglected type of space, the public space, and how to behave in these shared spaces. I hope you enjoy this episode.

S04E17: Force Thangs

This episode just talks about not trying to force things.

S04E16: Consistency

I’ve realized that in other to feel “consistent” we tend to mount unnecessary pressure on ourselves. The intention of this episode is only to make you see “Consistency” in a different way. Share this episode with your friends and if they use Spotify or Apple Podcasts, ask them to give us a rating.

S04E15: Let People

Listen in as Valerie talks about Letting people react just the way they deem fit. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode every Mondays, 7pm.

S04E14: Guilt & Regret

Guilt and Regret, I believe, are feelings that a lot of people don’t get to fully understand. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode: Mondays, 7pm.

S04E013: Self-Harm

This episode is a very delicate one for me because it’s something I’m trying to get totally free from. If you or someone you know is going through this advice them to seek help or be that help. New episode every Monday 7pm

S04E12: Hate

How true is this “Hate dwells in a place love once was”?                                      I would want to hear your thoughts too.

S04E11: Nike

YES, I called it “Nike” when I didn’t even talk about “Nike”. I just couldn’t help but borrow the brand’s slogan “Just Do It”. I hope this episode finds you well🙂🙂

S04E10: A Crown to Duck 

Listen in to know “the crown” to duck😁. The background music was composed for us specially by a very good friend— Jesam Bassey, it’ll be our official music henceforth. I hope you enjoy this episode😊

S04E09: Criticism

Listen in as Valerie talks about Criticism, it’s types and using it to your advantage.

S04E08: Food for Thought?

Listen in as Valerie shares why it's always important to remember the reason you started. Make sure you always look towards the road ahead of you, but also remember why you started in the first place! And finally, do not wait to get ready before you start.

S04E07: Kindness, a Healer man needs (Anniversary Episode)

The little gestures matter too. I hope you enjoy this episode.

S04E06: A Few Good People/ Valentine Fuss

Is it just me or you also think this Valentine’s day thing is overrated? You’re free to send in your thoughts too. Enjoy😊

S04E05: Mirrors to Planning 

It’s self explanatory, amigo. I hope you enjoy this episode.

#1: EXTROVERTED CONVOs— Manny’s Two Cents

Listen to Manny Okonko share his thoughts on the question about music.

#1: EXTROVERTED CONVOs (with Nse Kani & Ethan Akpan 

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published every Month.

#1: EXTROVERTED CONVOs 

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published once a month. The episode has Aniebietabasi, interviewing random people in Uyo. I hope you enjoy this one😁

S04E03: Intentionality

This episode has Valerie talking about the need and ways to be intentional in 2022.

S04E02: Morning Ritual & A Rejection

Rituals are crucial sometimes to how you start your day, here you'll come across how I start my day. And I also talked about my recent rejection. Enjoy😁

S04E01: Pilot (with Glory Chris & Mannie Okonko) 

Listen in as Valerie talks about what to expect this season, as well as her thoughts on singing competition auditions like The Voice, Project Fame, Nigerian Idol, and others with Glory Chris & Mannie Okonko.

Rodney's Thoughts💭 

Listen to my good friend Rodney, join in on the conversation about sex. I hope you find this enlightening!

Josh's Thoughts💭 

As you are aware, the last two episodes have been about "Sex". If you listened to the episodes I mentioned that a listener could also join in on the conversation and it would be published as a bonus. This is the host of "The Anatomy of Josh's Thoughts" podcast, you are free to check his episodes out, they are too amazing. Enjoy!

S03E020: SEX 2 (Season Finale) 

Listen in as friends of Valerie share their views on sex. Kenzy D. , Collins N. & Raymond A. I hope you enjoy this beautiful talk.

S03E019: SEX 1

Listen as as Valerie and others talk about sex. A few questions were asked and Imoh, official Belletti & Olive shared their honest views on the subject matter. Follow on IG: @truthsinb.w & @inthemindofvalerie.pod

'In The Mind Of Valerie'

S03E015: Euphoria (with Wisdom Essiet)

Listen in as my guest and I take you on an honest review of the movie series "Euphoria". The episode was cut short because we forgot and began to gist about something else 😂😂. Just enjoy it biko😁. Song: Labrinth— Still Don't Know My Name.      Oh, let's give Essiet small credit, this episode was his idea 😁👏👏

S03E018: The Three / Four Words 

Listen in as Valerie talks about those three words. I hope you enjoy the episode.

You are deserving of everything good! 

Here, I correct a common line that is mostly used by 'lovers' which I'm also guilty of using😂 . Music : Serpentwithfeet— Derrick's Beard

S03E017: Counting your Blessings 

Listen in as Valerie reads one of her favorite poem "Counting the Beats" and also talks about counting blessings. What are you grateful for?

S03E016: Everything, Everything (with Wisdom Essiet)

In this episode Wisdom & Valerie discuss everything, from women and politics to matters of the heart, books as well as movies. Enjoy 🙃

S03E014: The Week's Lesson II

Here, i talked about three lessons i learned this week. The music playing is ‘What a Wonderful World’ by Louis Armstrong because truly it is a wonderful world. I hope you enjoy this one. You could also tell me what you learnt this week via voice notes😁

S03E013: Hurt People Hurt People

Well, in this episode Valerie diverted from the topic just a little in the beginning, don't worry, it was intentional 😂. Song Credit: 1. The Hunts— Years   2. The Hunts— Standing Small.

S03E012: Sharing Your Problems

Listen in as Valerie talks about sharing problems. It's a good thing to share your problems with someone you trust. But before doing that be sure the person is ready to take tbat load. And before compelling someone to share his/her problems be sure you're ready to carry that weight.

S03E011: A Gentle Reminder

Listen in as Valerie reminds you that times change. I hope this episode meetd you well.        Song: Little Richard: (There Will be) Peace in the Valley.

S03E010: Ramblings

Listen in as Valerie shares with you things on her mind— podiversary, people, death. Be sure to jot things down😉. IG: @truthsinb.w, @inthemindofvalerie.pod

S03E09: Reminiscence

Listen in as Valerie talks about her childish years, experiences and lessons. Note: you could as well send/give shout-outs to your friends in primary/secondary school, those friends that made your life in school worthwhile when you're sharing your own experiences.

S03E08: Solitude & Success

Listen in as Valerie explains the word "Self-Made" in simple and clear words. This episode also explains that no one can make it in life alone. I hope you enjoy it. I'll like to hear from you as well, share your thoughts with me when you're done listening.

Disclaimer?

This is an episode that tells you Valerie doesn't have life all figured out and just like you she's still only learning.

S03E07: The Week's Lesson 1

This episode just summarizes two of the many lessons I've learnt this week. Enjoy!

S03E06: (You Can't Give Up Now)

A song by Mary Mary rings in my head whenever I feel like giving up and it's called 'Can' Give Up Now'. I hope this episode brings you the light you deserve.

Love regardless ... (check description 😁)

of how many times you've been hurt.

S03E05: Story Story?

Listen to Valerie read you a story from the book 'Not Even God is Ripe Enough' by Bakare Gbadamosi & Ulli Beier. The story is titled 'When Life is Good for us we Become Bad'. I hope you really enjoy this one.

S03E04: The Journey ...

You must have heard before that life is not a competition or a race. Life is journey, a process. This is a beautiful episode, i hope it resonates with you.

S03E03: Thoughts & Gestures

Sometimes what really matters is the thought and not always the act. I hope this episode meets you well.

S03E02: Good days, Bad days.

Two things make you grow. Listen to know those things 😏😁

Jiggy's Opinion

Listen to what Jiggy had to say about our last episode 😁

Victor Jantzen's opinion

If you listened to S03E01 you'd understand better. Incase you have something to say, do well to send a voice note. Don't be shy😁.

S03E01: Overcoming Sadness

"To live a joyful life doesn't mean that you are happy always, it means you are able to process all the emotions that come to you in the right proportion" — Chude Jideonwo. I hope this season blesses you 🙂.

S02E20: Healing from depression with 'iHearSay' (SEASON FINALE)

We tend to neglect the healing process of depression. Listen to Valerie team up with the host of 'iHearsay' podcast— Fav, as we talk about this.

It isn't always just a 'joke'

This episode is me telling you to joke with caution. Think first. Think carefully before you speak. Ask yourself questions, self-evaluate. "If these words/things were said to me, how would I feel?". Ask yourself.

Growth with Hagin Ojukwu

This episode is about growth being a decision only you can make. Have you ever felt stuck? As if your life is stagnant? Then you really need to listen to this episode 😁.

Don't just choose happiness, create it.

This episode explains how one could create happiness instead of just choosing it.

S02E19: Love and Constancy 2?

You don't have to wait to be in a relationship before you can tell people just how much you love them. Time doesn't wait, do it now. So I'm wondering, should I call this episode "Love and Constancy Part 2? Ps: it's an 'Unscripted' episode 😁😂

S02E18: Love and Constancy

Give to the people around you little reminders that they mean more to you. These reminders are called gifts of affirmations, learn to give these gifts.

S02E17: Don't Mind Your Business

Listen to know why you shouldn't always mind your business. Song: John Mayer— The Search For Everything

S02E16: Retrace Your Steps

This is about you choosing to stay sane. I hope this meets you well 😊.         Song: Moses Sumney— Doomed

S02E15: Silent Treatment Vs. Communication

Silent treatment is a coward's game. Music: Perfume Genius— Normal Song

S02E14: What Would You Do If You Were Love?

I burnt myself. I did it.
The serenity of the noon brought with it pain, aloneness, anger.
I'm angry! I'm angry! 
At myself.
I let my emotions control me,
I let life beat me to pieces and I'm left weak,
Fallen to the ground—
Broken. Shattered.
"I burnt myself. I did it." 
These the exact words love got home to.
I could feel—
Love hold me tight in his words,
Love whisper into my ears saying the very words I need to hear,
Love's tender kiss in every "this will be over soon".

Love will always be to lift you up.

 Song: Nina Simone— Turn Me On.

S02E013: Time Won't Care

Time would not care if you're sleeping or working. It just keeps ticking. Life is really short yet beautiful. This is an episode that encourages you to live life to the fullest regardless of the difficulties you might be facing. Song: HAEVN: Throw Me A Line.

S02E012: Other People's Property

We need to learn to care for people's properties. I hope you enjoy this episode 😊.

S02E011: Scars

Listen to me talk about loving your scars.

S02E10: Do it for Yourself

Have you ever felt as though no one is appreciating you enough? Then listen to this episode.

S02E09: The Way To (You) Win.

This episode is about new year resolutions and long term goals. Happy listening 😁!

What Victor Jesam had to say about Depression.

We all have our thoughts. Listen to Victor share his thoughts on the causes of depression.

What Olive had to say about Depression.

Listen to Olive talk about some causes of depression and ways to control it.

What 'IHearSay' had to say about depression.

Listen to the host of 'IHearsay' Podcast talk to you about some causes of depression and how to control it.

What Collins had to say about Depression.

Listen to Collins take about short term goals.

What Jiggy had to say about Depression.

He highlighted some causes of depression especially in teenagers, 'pressure' was also mentioned here. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did😊.

What Cephas had to say about Depression.

Listen as Cephas talks to us about depression. Happy listening!

S02E08: Depression

Depression? When the world is supposed to be merry? Find out why i chose this topic. Merry Christmas 🔥😋

S02E07: Heartbroken 💔

Happy listening 😊!

S02E06: What's in a Name?

Names are powerful. I don't have to stress on the power of the words that comes out of your mouth. Listen to this episode for more details 😁.

S02E05: Vex Money

This episode is about the importance of 'vex money'.

S02E04: Strangers

Strangers are friends you're yet to met. This episode talks about being kind and open to people you do not know because sometimes they might be your blessing and other times your lesson.

S02E03: 'God Bless'

This episode talks about the need to invoke your blessing. Happy listening 😁!

S02E02: Teamwork

It's the commitment within the team mates and their unconditional support that makes a team win. Personal and family life also works on this principle. Therefore, it is rightly said that "One is too small a number to achieve greatness".        Pardon me, I was sniffing too much 😂- I caught a cold.       Soundtrack:  Nicolai Heidlas - In Your Arms.

S02E01: Out Of Sight

Out of sight doesn't always mean you're out of mind. I hope you enjoy this episode 😊!                              Cover art: @veeqtour_igri

Ep. 20 (Season Finale): The Love Flame (with Glory Chris and Cassper-Sandy)

Love has to be the most powerful emotion. It can heal, enslave and cause division but it can also create miracles.

Ep. 19: You'd never guess 😁

It has been said that some men struggle with the fact that some women are highly successful than they are and this affects the dynamics of the relationship. Now, are men intimidated by women that are more successful than they are?

Ep. 18: Motivation

"If you wait for motivation to strike you then you're going to have to wait for a long time." — Eva Alordiah.             I hope you enjoy this episode 😁.    Oh, the background music's by Noah Pauw and it's called Friendship.

Ep. 17: Friend zone

We all know what the friend zone is so in this episode i talked about it in the simplest of ways— words but in an indepth sense. Enjoy😁. Oh, also, for those of you who like jazz or listen to jazz and maybe you want to get the background music (because people ask me a lot for my background music) it's: Jan Johansson— Visa Från Utanmyra.

Ep. 16: Epistolary Relationships

I realized how rare this old school romance was and i decided to talk about it. Happy listening 😁

Ep. 15: Giving

We all know how great it feels to receive gifts— it lifts our spirit. I hope you enjoy this episode 😁.

Ep. 14: Appreciate People

We are humans, we always want to feel noticed, valued and recognized. We want to know that our efforts are noticed. I hope you enjoy this one😁.

Ep. 13: Progress is Progress

Acknowledging what is called "little wins" has a way of keeping your mind in check. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Ep. 12: Broken Dreams

We've dreamt, hoped to be something or maybe be somewhere but today we aren't. This is an episode that talks about those dreams— those broken dreams. Enjoy😊

Ep. 11: Anger, Pride and Patience

Anger is an emotion felt when we feel our pride/ego is being threatened. We get angry when we feel neglected or disrespected or when we feel we are being taken advantage of. I hope you enjoy this episode ❤️❤️

Ep. 11: Anger, Pride and Patience

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