I'm a sex positive goddess who loves to talk about sex and indulge. This podcast is going to be incredibly descriptive and sexual. So strap in or on, light one up and relax, it's going to be fun 

Sex and Sativa with Alex

No Babies Allowed Ft The Boujee B*tch

With the amount of ease this episode brought me it is actually hilarious that I was remotely nervous to approach the topic of "CONTRACEPTIVES". I have to admit that having one of my favorite persons "Boujee" with me to tackle this topic made it seamless.                             Boujee and I discussed; Spanking men's butt, The lack of advancement in male contraceptives, "Fucking Rich", while also deftly navigating Religion and Faith Clashing with Contraception. Thank you Boujee for an interesting episode with your unique perspectives. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, heaven knows I did.

To Intense Orgasms and Great Sex!!! 

Welcome to 2023! In this episode I discuss Orgasms in the new year, my eventful first day of the year, grace and leeway. I also touch on the upcoming Giveaway to celebrate 3 years of podcasting as well as a new section on the podcast called "Ask Alex" Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. I hope the rest of the year is positive to you 💜

The Bustier, Thong and Garter 

In a different universe there's a version of Alex that has a thriving custom lingerie store. On this episode join me as I delve into the different facets of Lingerie,fun fact; I have a slight obsession with pretty lingerie so putting together this episode was a no brainer. With the holiday spirit Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, also do not hesitate to share it with your favorite people this holiday season.

Sex gets Better with age?

The idea that the older one gets the less sex one should experience because with age comes a certain asexuality has always rubbed me the wrong way. With my birthday approaching I discuss how age can affect our sexual choices and how embracing that can be a good thing. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Pussy Problems 

From Childhood I've lived in a world where shame rules the vagina and as a child It seemed ridiculous but as an adult I find it maddening. On this episode I discuss the unspoken rules that vulva owners have to go through, the weird fads and trends as well as the maintenance culture that we seemingly have to upload when it comes to perfecting the Vagina/Vulva. So light one up or pour yourself a drink as we delve into Pussy Problems

September is Sexual Health Awareness Month 

Even with my microphone breaking down mid record, rain falling expectedly I still decided to put out this episode. Sexual Health Awareness is incredibly important and in this episode I share some personal experiences with STI's. This is quite a vulnerable and not so fun episode so definitely light one up or pour yourself a drink

Better as a fantasy? 

Sexual fantasies can sometimes feel like a taboo or some sort of cheat code, on this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I tackle sexual fantasies, the guilt and how to deal with that as well as introducing sexual fantasies to your partner. It can get somewhat nerve wracking trying to get your partner to help make your fantasies a reality do I added a little guide to help as well. This episode was really interesting to work on so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Lube Shaming 

It's a wonderful time in existence where we have so much options to explore in term of sexual aids so it's sort of baffling to me when I meet people who are ashamed, embarrassed or angry that they need lube with their partners to enjoy sex. If you enjoyed a previous episode of #SexandSativawithAlex titled "WAP: A DISSERTATION ON A BLACK WOMAN'S SEXUALITY" then think of this episode as an extension with a different point of view. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Myths About Oral Sex

Debunking myths relating to sex is one of my favorite things to do on this podcast and it was interesting to dive into Biases I previously held regarding oral sex. On this episode I explore the basic, absurd and somewhat thought provoking notions that one might just believe about oral sex. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

SEXPECTATIONS 

Welcome to Season 5 and I'm kicking things off by discussing sexual Expectations and how holding on to those expectations leave one having mediocre if not bad sexual experiences, unlearning these expectations also made its way into this episode and I do hope those solutions help. Season 5 is going to be amazing, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Erotica Szn

I promised an erotica themed episode in Season 4 and The Sex Positive Goddess is here to deliver. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Please don't hesitate to tell me how much you enjoyed it.

Romance Novels Pt 2

The Boujee Bitch and I continue our discussion on romance episode and in this concluding episode we disect most of the popular tropes that are heavily used and repeated in romance novels. We also delved deeper to discuss how the lack of representation skewers our idea on what romance should look like. This was such a fun episode and I really do hope you enjoy it. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Romance Novels Pt 1

On this episode I am joined by my favorite person (The Boujee Bitch) and we discuss Romance novels, do we love them, hate them or hate that we love them. In the first part of this 2 part episode, Boujee and I delve into our shared history with romance novels, how we both used romance novels as a great way to escape from the woes of growing up in a Nigerian household. We also discussed the various genres of Romance novels and the sometimes unrealistic nature of these novels. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Hoe Phase Should Not Exist 

The term "Hoe Phase" always rubs me the wrong way and with this episode, I'm able to finally put words to why I feel like it's a term used to mock women for choosing to explore their sexuality. It's a new year, let's not be eager to pigeon hole ourselves into situations that might not favor one sexually. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Multiple Partners can be Fun Pt 2

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode. Please listen to pt 1 to fully enjoy this episode.

Multiple Partners can be Fun Pt 1

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode

How To Dirty Talk

It's actually frustrating to see how dirty talking(something that can actually help your sexual experiences) is viewed as cheesy, corny or cringe. On this episode of my podcast I give tips on how to make Dirty Talking less awkward and more personalized. Interested in Initiating Dirty talking for the first time? it's all in this fun episode, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Aftercare Makes Sex Better 

On this episode I delved into Aftercare and how our complete disregard of the inclusion of Aftercare impacts the enjoyment of our sex lives. This episode highlights the Importance of Aftercare in our regular sexual relationships as well as how best we can include aftercare in our sexual practices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Myths Surrounding The Female Orgasm 2.0

I had so much fun Tackling the most ridiculous and Misleading Myths surrounding the Female Orgasm, here is the continuation of the Previous episode. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Myths Surrounding The Female Orgasm 

The Elusive O, for so long there has been a ton of confusion regarding the Female Orgasm and why it cannot be achieved and honestly I was surprised by the fact that some people still hold on to these untrue beliefs. On this episode I have fun tackling a lot of Myths Surrounding the Female Orgasm as well as my experiences unlearning some of them I held as Facts. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Ethical Porn is Fun

On this episode, I talk about the fun benefits of consuming ethical porn and the differences between Mainstream Porn easily available on the internet and Ethical porn. I also talk a little bit about my contribution so far to ethical porn. For more insight, check out Porn Culture in season 1 of my podcast. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

BDSM is not Abuse!! Pt 1

With a lot of stigma and unfair Stereotypes attached to BDSM it is important to note that Abuse has no correlation while practicing the lifestyle. Healthy BDSM relationships revolve around Consensual Play, infact enthusiastic consent is encouraged in BDSM. In this episode I talk about the responsibility that practitioners of the lifestyle owe each other as well as a few mistakes that I've seen be repeated in a D/S relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

What's wrong with Sexual Pleasure? 

Welcome back to #SexandSativawithAlex. Kicking things off this season by talking about sexual pleasure and how the lack of visibility regarding sexual pleasure has the sexual experience feeling incomplete. In this episode I talk about how the lack of comprehensive sex education plays a huge role in how we view the importance/need for sexually pleasurable relationships. I also note how most times we view sexual pleasure =indecency and immorality. I do hope you enjoy this week's episode as it's a preview of how fun this Season is going to be. Please don't hesitate to engage with me on IG@Sexpositivegoddess and Twitter @SexSativa. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Sexual Responsibility pt2

If you enjoyed the first episode on sexual responsibility with The Boujee B*tch, then give this episode a listen. We both talk about ways to respect your sexual partner, birth control and sexual responsibility while living with an STI. so pour yourself a drink or light one up and enjoy this episode

Sexual Responsibility Pt1

Sexual Responsibility is so often ignored and this episode seeks to shed light on the term "Sexual Responsibility". My guest(The Boujee B*tch) and I tackle ways we can be more sexually responsible and why sexual responsibility prepares one to fully understand and respect your own sexual choices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Using Sex Toys as a man, Emasculating or not? 

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I am joined by the present Mr Globe Nigeria(Dr Uzo) and we discuss the unwillingness of some men in using sex toys with their partners as well as themselves. We also discussed the running joke of Igbo men being bad at sex, Butt plugs, Nymphomaniacs and BDSM. This was such a great episode so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Prepping For Solo Masturbation 

If you can prep for sex why can't you prep to Masturbate? I love the idea of getting ready to pleasure yourself because honestly masturbating is a form of self care. On this episode I talk about how I get ready to enjoy my orgasms and how preparing for solo play reaffirms that I have the right to enjoy my pleasure. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Start a Relationship with Your Vulva!!! 

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I discuss Labiaplasty, Designer Vagina trend and why some women would pay to have the perfect looking vulva. No two Vulva is the same, let's learn to appreciate the vulva we have. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, it's quite informative

Myths Regarding Female Masturbation 

On this episode I tackle harmful, funny and straight up confusing myths surrounding women Masturbation. It's Masturbation May Ladies and you deserve your Orgasms. Maybe after listening to this episode you'd go into the world to close that Orgasm Gap

Woes of a Female Stoner 

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I talk about the annoying (dare I say) Misfortunes plaguing my life as a female Stoner who regularly indulges in consuming Cannabis. I know I'm not alone in my feelings so please don't hesitate to share with me other peeves as a female you encounter that I didn't talk about. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode 💖💖💖

+1 and Proud 

It's been a whole year podcasting, creating sex positive content, existing and nurturing Sex And Sativa With Alex. Thank you so much for listening and sharing my podcast. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode 💖💖💖

The Period Conversation 

Periods happen to be one of those icky subjects that we don't talk about or seem to be taboo of some sorts because the idea of bleeding out of the Vagina for days makes some people uncomfortable. Well it's 2021 Women bleed monthly, and aren't cast out of the camps so as not to taint the cheese. On this episode I got cranky and talked about Periods, period poverty and how silly it seems that we don't talk about these sort of issues more often. So pour yourself a drink or light one up and enjoy 💖💖

Okafor's Law

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I tackle the myth of Okafor's law with a guest Steavihn. We also talk about men lying about being with women they have never being previously intimate with, Curved D*cks where mentioned at some point as well as other things. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Love and Light from Your Favorite Sex Positive Goddess

Valentine, Self Love and Celibacy

This episode seems to run like it has no aim but honestly it's worth it. On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I talk about continuing my celibacy journey, how difficult it is to self love and my non existent plans for valentine 2021. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Let's Talk Sex Positivity 

Starting the new year talking about Sex Positivity and what it Means to be Sex positive. This Episode was incredibly informative for me and I truly tried to get as much information as possible. I hope you enjoy this week's episode and take away a few details from it. Season 3 is going to be so much fun and this episode gives a little insight into that. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy your favorite Sex Positive Goddess 😘

Season Finale

On the season Finale of #SexandSativawithAlex Season 2 Alex recaps her memorable episode from this season and updates listeners on her celibacy journey. Alexandria is very grateful for every single person who listens and supports the podcast. Compliments of the season everyone and a kick ass New Year. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Love and Light from Your Favorite Sex positive Goddess Alex ❤️❤️❤️

Getting Ready for a D Appointment with The Boujee B**ch

On this episode I talk with my most favorite person in the world about getting ready to get that D. Stuff we do, little routines that give us a little boost of confidence before we spread our legs. This episode can't even be properly explained so just listen. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

LGBQ conversation

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I sit down with a queer paralegal to talk about how Queer Nigerians where excluded from the #EndSARS protests in October, homophobic laws in the country and Conversion Therapy. This episode was a heavy one for me but it is only a fraction in the intensity of homophobia that queer people face in Nigeria daily. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and listen to this episode.

My Boudoir Shoot 

Got a Boudoir shoot done and it made me feel so good about myself. On this episode I talked about the crazy journey with meeting multiple photographers, my makeup artist bailing on me and how I almost chickened out on the photoshoot itself. I hope you enjoy and listen to this episode

My take on Bella's boxxx 

The past couple of weeks have been overwhelming so it was a pleasant distraction to give my take on how I really love this well curated boxxx catered towards self love (Masturbation) from Bella's boxxx. I also talked about how this social revolution #EndSARS affects me and the country in general. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

Communication and Sex 

This week on#SexandSativawithAlex I discuss the conversations one is supposed to have with a partner before having sex (or the lack of that conversation). Communication helps to improve your sex life and give one an idea of what the sexual Expectations are. The topic and description sound boring (Trust me, I know) but when you do listen, I hope you enjoy and maybe takeaway one or 2 things. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and listen to the most recent episode. Don't hesitate to give me your feedback.

Art of Foreplay pt1 with Illie 

In this episode @illie_knowah and I talk about foreplay and it's importance to sex. For some weird reason (we do not blame Marijuana) we talked about car parts as women parts. Honestly this episode deserves to be listened to because it can't be properly described. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy.

Normalizing STI's 

This episode is meant to be one where the topic of Sexually transmitted diseases are made commonplace. Listen to me talk about a how normal STI's are while you light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy

W.A.P: A dissertation on a black woman's sexuality 

Decided to make an episode where I spoke about how songs by female artists embracing their sexuality, being unapologetic about their sexual choices and basically just owning their "baddies", helped me on my sexual positivity growth.           So light one up and listen, don't hesitate to share and enjoy.

Orgasms With The Ladies 

This Week I got a few amazing women to discuss Orgasms and their experiences with orgasms and squirting... This episode does not need so much of a description so just light one up or pour yourself a drink(Trust me it will make this episode amazing) because it's an amazing ride.

Dirty Talking 

This week I'm joined by Fashion Photographer: Aize Muhammed Paul Esq and Uzo The Boujee Bitch where we unpack the nuances behind dirty talking and how they'd rather have their bank account do the dirty talking for them. So light one up or not and enjoy this episode

Ramblings of an Upset Black Woman 

This episode has me discussing issues on social media that has me feeling so confused and upset. I also talk about an incident where I felt unsafe and scared. Please light one up and enjoy this episode

Food And Sex

Welcome to Season 2 of Sex and Sativa with Alex. This episode has me discussing Food and sex or as it's known; Sitophilia. I had so much fun delving into the fetishism surrounding food and sex, weird foods used during sex and so much more. So Light one up, strap in or on 🙄and enjoy this episode... Was I missed? I hope so

Sleeping Over

Talked about Sleeping over with your sexual partner on this episode. Btw this episode marks the season finale of the first episode of Sex and Sativa with Alex Season 1. Thank you so much for listening. Sex and Sativa with Alex will be back

Fun in the Bedroom 

Sex shouldn't be boring but instead fun and enjoyable. On this episode I'll be talking about the ways we can shake things up so that sex with your partner doesn't become routine, stiff and incredibly boring, because let's face it: Wouldn't you want to have Fun in the Bedroom?

Marijuana, Masturbation and Mental health 

Come listen to me talk about my relationship with Marijuana and how I find masturbating fun and relaxing, I also talked about the link between my sex drive and my mental health as well as a few mistakes I might have made along the way. Light one up and I hope you enjoy

Porn Culture pt 1

An intro into applying porn in your sex life. I think. Basically I'm talking about the idea behind porn and if it's more trouble than the supposed payoff promised on this episode

Ramblings of a horny black woman 

I basically got really high and horny so this episode was born. Listen to me ramble about random stuff and sex

Blowjobs 

This episode I'll be focusing on the Huge chore that is a Blowjob and the intricacies of sucking dick. Is there a protocol for swallowing or spitting? Light one up, listen, enjoy and maybe take a few notes

420 Think of this as more of a filler episode where I talk about my memorable sexual experiences with my favorite girl MJ

Nudes Culture 

I enjoy Nudes;Taking them, Receiving them and just enjoying nudes in general. On this episode I'll be talking about the Nudes culture and what I enjoy about nudes in general

Bad Sex Redo 

Having bad Sex seems like a rite of passage but having a redo wouldn't be such a bad idea right? On this episode I'll talking about bad sex and the possibility of redeeming the the experience

Turn offs during sex Part 1 with The Boujee B*tch

It's officially 4/20 which is so I recorded an episode with my favorite person where we talk about Turn offs during sex. I hope you enjoy

Playing with Sex toys 

Talking about sex toys and the ways they can make your sexual experiences more enjoyable

Does Celibacy Work? 

Talking about celibacy for a sex podcast seems ironic but let's explore it.

Sex and Sativa 

An intro to the awesomeness that is me and the podcast

Lube Shaming

Sex and Sativa with Alex

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